Monday, September 13, 2010
My Father
I can not believe that my father has been on his way to my house since August 28, to bring me my birthday gift. I ask myself why do I even deal with him. He continues to lie for no reason. I am 35 years old and have grown out of expecting to get something for my birthday from my parents. Although, I was surprised that my mother took me out to dinner. My father called me at 6:30 in the morning on August 26 to wish me a happy or late birthday. My birthday is on August 28. It's a shame he can never remember my exact birthday especially since I am the oldest and his other daughter's birthday is four days before mine. Why does he keep calling to tell me he is on his way but never shows up. I only deal with him because of the fact that he is my father. I don't need this kind of aggravation at my age. What are some suggestions on how I should deal with him?
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Dear Anntoinette,
ReplyDeleteFirst off I love your name, it is a beautiful name.
As far a your father is concerned, I feel for you. That must be some present he is bringing.LOL.
It truely is unbelievable that adults seem to feel the need to lie to their children. I have never experienced a father lying to me as my father was out of the scene. However I have experienced a loved one lying to me, over and over again. Why do they do it, that is a good question we may never know the answer to that one.
You asked what is it that you can do about it. I would ask him directly. Why is it that you say your doing something and you are not, I need help to understand this? Tell him how it makes you feel when this happens,be specific with a specific incident. For instance your birthday is a good one to go with since it is fresh.
I would not let him off the hook until he explains why. Don't let him make excuses either. Tell him it is important to you that he be honest. Maybe once he answers the why, you and he both will be free of this thing.
Hopefully this will lead to a honest and loving relationship.
LMK how things go,
Alice
Antoinette,
ReplyDeleteI can totally sympathize with your situation. I was fortunate enough to have a great father. It is too bad that my fortune for a great father didnt carry over to my oldest two children. It has been especially difficult to explain to them why their father would not call on their birthday. As an adult, I dont even understand it. I agree that at this point, its time to have a talk with your father. It is clear that you love him and I do think that he loves you as well. Maybe somewhere along the way he lost touch with what it takes to be a great father. Maybe he has made the incorrect assumption that because you are older he can get away with selling false dreams about what he is going to do. Even if he isn't able to provide you with answers, you will be able to let your voice be heard.